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May 17

Message From Spirit: How To Connect With Angels And Spirit Guides Using A Pendulum

Posted on May 17, 2013 by Paul LeMay

Using a pendulum aka (dowsing) is the easiest way to connect with your Spirit Guide and Angels.  While there are other means, this article will focus only on the use of a pendulum.  Please keep in mind that dowsing is a very broad topic and it’s impossible to cover everything.  However, you will be given more than enough information to get started on this fantastic journey that brings peace and understanding to your life.  The links at the end of this post will guide you to develop further.

Dowsing amplifies our potential to interact on many levels with Nature and the Divine .  In essence it shows that you are more powerful than you think.  We are creative beings of the Divine.  Your divinity lies in the power of your mind and within the depths of your soul.  Your power is a gift from God that Jesus and Buddha were genius at tapping into the life force of the Holy Spirit.

Scientist through research in Quantum physics has validated much of this.

About The Pendulum

A pendulum is strictly a tool that allows you to access your power within.  However, it is really the Spirit, Angel, God or Ascended Masters doing the work through your soul.  Your Higher self, or your soul receives the information and passes it to your muscles.  This high speed vibration causes your muscles to direct the pendulum in the proper direction.

Choosing A Pendulum

Actually any thing can work as a pendulum, a piece of string and a nail will work, just as a small stone and string as well.  The key is to have something with a weight of about 3 ounces and a chain or string of at least 5 inches.  The longer the chain the slower the pendulum will move.

You can make your own, or buy something that’s pleasing to your eye.  Keep in mind a  rounded body  leading to a point on the bottom is best.  My personal preference is a crystal quartz, but its soley  your choice.

Before using, wash your pendulum under cold running water, this removes energy that it may have picked up.  Never let anyone touch your pendulum, as it will transfer their energy to your pendulum.

Blessing Or Charging Your Pendulum

Before using the pendulum to connect with your Spirit Guide, hold it in both hands.  Ask God to bless your pendulum with his love and light and to charge it with unconditional love.  State that only beings from the light  are permitted here!

How To Use The Pendulum

First Grab hold at about 4 to 5 inches, with your predominant hand, the one you write with.  Later you can experiment with your other hand if you choose.  Hold the pendulum about a foot in front of you and  gently swing it to the left, and then to the right.  Swing it in soft circles or back and forth.  Now stop it from moving and after it stops, ask out loud or silently to show you what  direction does it prefer for the YES answer. Ask again to show you the direction for NO.   Next ask it show you the direction for I don’t know or ask me later.  One final direction to ask for is the Not allowed to tell you.

Not A Toy Or Game

Once that’s established, ask if this is your spirit Guide.  If it says no, than ask if its your higher self.  If you get a yes to either, ask if they are from the light.  The spirit must  answer truthfully.  If it says yes, you can begin by saying, that you will not use the pendulum frivolously and only for the higher good of yourself or others.  That you only ask for honest answers in return.

Remember this is not a toy, improper use will result in improper answers and could have negative effects.  Don’t ask for lottery numbers, or silly questions.  If you want to practice on something, just ask your guide for permission.  For example:  I would like to show my wife how you answer yes and no, is it allowed?  Always say thank-you to your guides when they help you with a question.

Negative Spirits

There are many lower negative spirits that like to play games, if when asking as above for identification, if they say no they are not from the light, or you can ask do you love the Holy Spirit, they are OBLIGATED to tell you the truth.  Should they say No, simply say Michael the Archangel I have a dark spirit please take him away.  Your pendulum may swing back and forth rapidly for a bit.  When it stops simply say thank you Michael and ask if he was successful.

Sometimes your pendulum may pick up negative energy, especially if you keep it near your computer screen.  So if you start getting weird or stupid answers, ask are you from the light, and then continue as stated above.

Then wash your pendulum as stated above, and ask for a new blessing and your good to go.

How To Connect To Your Angels And Spirit Guides

At your disposal you have your higher-self, and he is just as knowledgeable as your spirit guide.  You may wish to start with him, until you get comfortable.  All you need to do when picking up the pendulum is to ask for him.  For your spirit guide it’s just as simple.  Just ask is_____here.  You would do the same for Angels, just one note that may upset a few folks.  If you ask for your GUARDIAN Angel,  your spirit Guide may respond.  As we do not technically have Guardian Angels, our spirit guides act in that capacity.

Ask Specific Questions

It’s important to your success to keep your questions as specific as possible.  For example, if you ask is this a good book?  You will mostly get a Yes.  What you should ask is….Is this book of serious benefit to me.  Is it a must have?  If it says no, you can probe further by asking, is it just an entertaining read.  The key is  to get correct information.  Say your interested  in a vitamin that’s known for good health.  If you ask, is this pill good for health?  You will get a yes, BUT…it doesn’t mean its good for you.  So your question should be…Is this safe and of benefit to me.

Tricks And Tips

Hold your pendulum over a product on its own it will start spinning in a circle to the right or left.  To the right means its positive energy, that’s good, if its to the left, avoid it. Now if its positive, that doesn’t mean its good for you.  After putting it over the product, turn your hand palm up, now hold the pendulum over your palm.  You will get a positive or negative.  A positive means its good for you a negative is no.

Place the pendulum at the head of your bed, if you get a negative spin, change your beds placement  in the room.  It’s all about energy, we are all created out of the same energy and mother earth’s energy plays a role in our lives.

When asking questions, try to detach your thoughts from the outcome, if you are hoping for a certain outcome, and your mind is saying; please say yes, yes, what happens is your conscious mind will force the answer you desire.  So be careful, as you want correct information.

Meditation, if you practice meditation it will sharpen your intuitive abilities.  Sometimes your angels and guides will give you signs via your meditation, dreams or visions.  When in doubt, ask them.

Who You Going To Call

Your Guides and Angels are loving beings, without Ego and they are non-judgemental.  They are a gift from God for you to call upon when needed.  But for them to help you, you have to ask.  However in a threatening emergency they will respond,  You must ask as they can not violate your FREE WILL.

1.  For the most part your higher-self and your Spirit Guide can handle most things.  However, there are special Angels for specific purposes.

2.  ARIEL  oversees nature and works for the benefit of Mother Earth.  You can call on her for healing your animals.

3.  Chamuel helps with finding new love, friendships and employment

4.  Gabriel she is the messenger Angel, who helps, journalists, writers and teachers seek her with any problems about communication.

5.  Michael   is the protector, he works at releasing fear from all of us, when ever you are afraid, confused, or concern for personal safety call upon him for protection.

6.  Raphael one of my favorites, he is the healing angel, he promotes health and wellness, call on him to heal your sickness or injuries.  He also watches over people in the health profession and loves to help them when asked.  He also is the Guide for Reiki practitioners.

Conclusion

There are many more angels, and much more information for one article. I’m sure I opened areas for more questions, especially because there is a lot to know.  Should you have any questions please ask here, or go to my Facebook page.  Blessings to all.

 
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May 11

Messages From Spirit,Your Higher Self The Truth Explained

Posted on May 11, 2013 by Paul LeMay

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The internet offers a variety of versions about Your Higher Self  and attempts to explain what it is.  However, this article’s information comes directly from my higher self and will give you a first hand look that includes  some information that you would never expect.

While your Higher Self is also known as your subconscious mind it prefers the term Higher self.  It is a separate part of you, the better part and it lives in the fourth dimension.  As you evolve to a higher level of spirituality, your better half always moves one up above you.

Unique Individual Intelligence

This special part of you has its own  intelligence.  It also has it’s own desires, fears and separate emotions from you.  The primary desire is to have an intimate loving relationship with its other half, “YOU” and desires that you learn to love God.  It has a strong desire to evolve and grow spiritually but his growth depends on you.  The more people who love God and Jesus, the more light that will shine out into the world, helping all  of creation to expand and evolve spiritually.  Your spiritual growth is his growth and evolution.  He desires caring and love and in return he loves you unconditionally.  He loves to be needed and of service, and he desires to guide you to a happier life.

In the course of developing an intimate relationship with you, it desires to have a name.  This name is something they chose and pass on to you either via a dream or a vision.  You can ask that it provides you with a  direct wording of the name other than something  symbolic. 

My Higher self selected the name Robin and while I asked him for a direct wording, I received a sharp image of a Robin on the ground. Since I asked him for a specific night for this to take place, I simply assumed that this is what he wanted for a name and he confirmed it.

The Who And The What

Your Higher Self, your subconscious mind is the doorway to the one Universal Mind of God.  Being that we are all one, our mind and intelligence connects  to all that is.  Imagine a creek following into a stream, and the stream into the river and the river into the Ocean. Your thought words, emotions, dreams and desires are all part of the one mind of God.  Your desire thoughts and beliefs are known and available to all for manifestation .  It is a pool for everything and anything that the higher self draws on for manifestation into your life.

How Everything Works

Your higher self is your creative engine.  Your thoughts words, emotions put into action are creative and your higher self doesn’t know what is real or unreal, positive or negative.  It only knows that what thoughts and  beliefs you feed into it, is what you are asking for.  So it goes  right to work creating it into your reality.  This is why it’s Important to Guard your thoughts and emotions.  Emotions are the fuel for your thoughts and desires.

Ask And You Shall Receive

Because we are of one mind, all things, desires and events are waiting for you.  There is no such thing as a lack of anything.  Everyone has access to this virtual pool of prosperity.  For example, do you desire financial abundance?  Feed the thought to your higher self that you are financially abundant, keep your thought on I Am Financially Abundant In Every way.  Believe in it, feel it, image it, and your Higher self-will access the vast and plentiful Universal mind of God..

A message from Robin to everyone

Learn to love yourself, and share that love with everyone.  Love God and Jesus with a sincere heart as this will fill your life with many new blessings and joyousness.  However, many will believe they love God and Jesus but unknown to them it is not sincere as Jesus would like. This is simply because hidden walls exist within you.  These walls need to come down.  Pray to Jesus for healing, and learn to connect to your higher self, or your spirit guide.  We desire to help you but, you must ask. 

Spirit desires and encourages  more people to  make contact, so that earth can speed up its spiritual evolvement.  Most of all spirit will help to lessen your daily struggle and pain.  Offering guidance on creating a life full of love, joy, abundance and clarity of your life’s purpose.

Love, Light and Blessings to all.

Robin       

 Coming…How to connect with and build a relationship with your higher self, spirit guides and Angels.

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May 03

Coming Out! A Novice Psychic Explains

Posted on May 3, 2013 by Paul LeMay
Natures Beauty Is A Blessing

Natures Beauty Is A Blessing

My coming out at the age of 63 with the announcement that I am a psychic is as big surprise to me as it is to those who know me.  Never in my entire life did I expect such a dramatic change in the course of my life.

Actually everyone has psychic abilities.  For some folks they need   to develop them and for others it comes easily.  For me, it has been a gradual change slowly evolving to what I am today.

Over the past ten years I have had characteristics of an Empath.  An empath is a person who is sensitive and feels the emotions of others. As a result negative people are toxic and make me physically ill, draining me of my energy and leaving me exhausted.

Subtle changes began occurring over the years.  As a disabled veteran from agent orange exposure, I developed illnesses  that caused chronic pain, fatigue, and sleep deprivation.  As a result I learned to meditate to help find peace and calm my pain.  Also I rediscovered Reiki, a hands on healing method.  Meditation and Reiki further opened me up to areas of life that I never expected to experience.  In the past few months things began to move rapidly.

In January of 2009 I entered the hospital with an infection and in addition my kidneys shut down.  The doctor came in one night and told me the antibiotics were not working, and if the infection could not be stopped I was facing death.  Wow, how reflective on life one can get at  that moment, coupled with frustration of many years wasted from not living fully.

Obviously I did not want to die, I wanted a second chance.  I prayed and promised God I would not waste the opportunity to live a life as full as possible.  I promised he could use my life as he saw fit.

Soon after I met my loving wife Luccia.  Despite many good things in my life, I would often reflect how could I have a purpose or live a meaningful life.  I am in my 60′s with limited physical abilities.

A few months ago, I have learned that my mediation experiences, dreams etc were specific and intentionally directed to me.  I can not explain the details clearly here.  However, It is exciting at my age to take on a new adventure.  A path of spiritual fulfillment and a life with great purpose.  To be of service to others.

OK!!  you are wondering, so what! why am I telling you this.  Well, simply because I must as my future writings will cause you to wonder how I know certain things. And, I am  guided to, because of many specific things to come.

Finally, I know many will think I am crazy, others will ridicule and attack me.  Fortunately there will be those who support, love and accept me for who I am.

Please understand when you read anything I write, simply take what resonates within you and to simply discard the rest.  I am not out trying to force change anyones beliefs.  I respect all religions. My task is simply to give information, of which you can peacefully accept or reject.

Attackers, I will not fight with anyone, we have free will to believe what we choose, I respect yours, please respect mine.

Thank you for your understanding.

Blessings to all.

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Dec 06

Loneliness! How To Tips For Overcoming Being Lonely

Posted on December 6, 2012 by Paul LeMay

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Overcoming loneliness is a challenge for many and may seem almost impossible for others, yet with a sincere effort and desire you can overcome it.

Loneliness is an uncomfortable and complicated experience of feelings of isolation and emptiness.  There are many causes that result in being lonely.  However, loneliness is possibly  affected by your current social situation and emotional state.

We are all social creatures.  God created you as a loving social being with the intention that you live a full, joyful and abundant life.  While loneliness is a normal occurrence, it’s really like a physic alarm clock, providing you with a wake-up call to take action and seek social activity.

Connecting Socially

Participate in activities that allow you to meet other people.  loneliness fades when yo have contact with other people, especially when you share the same interest.  Here are some how-to tips for overcoming being lonely:

1.  Take an inventory of yourself, write it down on paper.  Determine what are your interest?  Whats your favorite activity, or what was your favorite?  Do you like to bowl?  If so, join a weekly bowling league and don’t say you’re not good enough!  there are leagues that add handicap points to your score based on your average.  Or, are you an avid reader? join a book club.  Do you like fishing? Join a sports or fishing club.  Are you a crafter, quilter then join a related group.  The key is to find a group activity that interests you.  Not sure about locating groups, check the internet, your church bulletin, weekly penny saver, newspapers etc for group listings.

2.  Become daring, attempt something new.  Take up a new hobby, how about Metal Detecting.  There are many clubs with members to help you choose your first detector and to help you learn how to use it.  Plus they have various group activities.  Find one gold ring and you paid for your detector.

Here are some ideas to get your juices flowing:

a.  Metal Detecting gets you outdoors, the thrill of the hunt, offers personal and group activity.  Pays you in cash, jewelry and historical relics.

b.  Gold prospecting, there are clubs to join, gets you outdoors, offers financial reward and you need very little to get started.

c.  Bottle hunting and collecting., offers group activity, exercise, an artful appreciation of history, plus many bottles are valuable and in demand to collectors.

d.  Stamp and Coin Collecting, offers group club association, and personal satisfaction of the art and history behind stamps and coins.

e. Arts and crafts such as candle making, soap making, stamping, quilting, woodworking, photography, videography.  You can enjoy these activities solo or with a group.

f.  Walking and Hiking, check your area for groups, makes it more enjoyable.

g.  Sports such as Bowling, Golf, Tennis, Baseball, Basketball, Volleyball etc.  Of course this depends on your physical condition.  Check with your local Park and Recreation department for clinics and leagues.  Yes, there are leagues for the over 40 crowd as well.

The list of activities is as long your imagination.  However the key is group activity.  Get out and meet like-minded people,  make friends and enjoy.  There are many activities that are solitary in nature, but remember you need to take part in group activities as well.

Develop A Routine

For many, loneliness comes from being suddenly thrown into a solitary living environment that creates the feeling of a loss of familiarity.  Your routine that you kept for many years has come to a screeching halt.  You’re probably feeling like a fish out of water not sure what to do with yourself.

It’s important to develop a new routine and you can make changes if you not happy with it.  Change is a positive thing, it opens up new doors of opportunity.  Some tips to get you started:

a.  Wake up and go to bed at the same time

b.  Pack a lunch and go to the park or meet a friend for lunch at least once a week.

c.  Go out for morning coffee and grab a paper, even better with a friend.

d.  Participate in a weekly group activity, if not possible monthly at the least.

f.  Visit regularly with family and friends

g.  Experiment and try new activities, you never what you will discover and  may enjoy.

  Treat yourself to something special once a week, or month even something as simple as treating your self to ice cream.

i.  Add meditation to your routine, there are many Subliminal CD‘s that help guide you to meditate.  It provides great emotional and physical benefits and sharpens memory and creativity.

The key is to try to develop a routine that doesn’t have you sitting home all day.  Set your schedule for routine task such as shopping, housekeeping and church if you desire to worship.  Do what makes you feel good and enjoy each moment.

Lack Of Motivation Or No Interest

There are some folks where the knowing what to do to overcome loneliness is not the problem.  Their problem is that they lack the desire or interest to even begin.  Down deep they want to overcome the loneliness and frustration that comes with it.  Yet they just can’t bring the change about.

This state of being, the lack of interest, to connect socially is possibly a result of clinical depression.  While the focus of this article is not on clinical depression, the recommendations are beneficial and may relieve some of its symptoms.

Please…if you feel constantly in a state of loneliness and depression and can’t shake it.  Please take action and speak to your family physician.  You deserve to feel your best and enjoy life.  Please I urge you to overcome the fear of taking action….God bless you.

 Feel free to ask questions or leave your comments, what you have to say is of value and just may help out another.

 

 

 

 

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Nov 27

Performance Goal Setting! How To Make A Simple Action Plan

Posted on November 27, 2012 by Paul LeMay

 

Goal setting is an important tool for completing special projects and helps to grow your business.  Setting specific performance goals and working them, gives you a focused direction of where to take your business or project.  It’s a roadmap of action steps that helps to promote your success and growth.

You have your dreams for your life, however, dreams  can vary and a goal is specific. Goals that you act upon will bring everything into reality. Setting performance goals will help you to stay clear in what you’re aiming for. Goal setting gives you a motivational boost, especially when you meet them..

Types Of Goals

There are two types of goals, short and long-term. A short-term goal is normally accomplished within a matter of months. Increasing your monthly sales is a short-term goal.  Adding a new staff member would also be short-term.

Long-term goals are usually more complex, as the tasks involved to carry out are multiple and time-consuming. A goal to expand your business by adding a new service is a long-term. You may have to meet specific conditions such as financing, hiring of help, research and equipment purchases. All these tasks take time to bring everything together to meet your goal.

Identify Your Goals

It’s important that you are clear about what you wish to do. Your goals need to be specific. One of your goals might be to increase sales yet that alone is a broad statement. It would be better to state the goal as, to increase monthly sales by $1,000 dollars per month.

Goals Must Be Measurable

It’s important to develop a means to track the goal as you are taking action on it. You need to know what action tasks are working or failing. Monitoring your goals action plan allows you to make necessary adjustment keeping you on track.

Goals Must Be Attainable

When Setting your Performance goals, you need to stay realistic about the goal and your abilities to meet it. You may have a goal to acquire a new delivery van,  but, if your business doesn’t have the resources to meet the monthly payment, then it’s not a reasonably attainable goal.

Goals Must Have A Time Limit

When setting your goals you must give it a time line for their completion. Growing your business with performance goals, works efficiently when you have a definite window to make your goal.

How To Make Your Simple Goal Action Plan

Your goal setting will only be of benefit if you have a plan. A plan of action, for monitoring and adjusting until completion.

You can use ordinary filler paper and keep it in a binder or folder. If you want to get fancy you can create your own format on the computer. Heres a simple goal plan.

1. On the top left hand corner, write out your specific goal. i.e. Increase monthly sales by $1000.00

2. On the far right write dated started, leave some spacing write Date To Complete by.

3. Down a line or two on the left side of the page, list the action steps required. List under this class numerically each action required to meet your goal. You may find yourself adding or eliminating action steps as you go. It all depends on what progress you’re making.  For Example:

1. Add two new customers per week.

Write in whats needed to acquire two customers extra per week.

2. Participate in Trade shows

Determine, what type, when or where, log steps needed to carry out.

3. Develop new product or service promotion

List steps necessary

Action Steps are like a goal within a goal, they are the list of tasks needed to carry  them out.

As you complete an action task, off to the end of the task write the date completed. As I mentioned this is a simple means. Develop a plan that is comfortable for you. Keep in mind you need to check your plan periodically and work the action steps.

When Goals Are Not Met

There will be a time when business doesn’t go as planned and your action steps hit a roadblock. Don’t get discouraged as it’s just a part of life. The key is to stay positive, take a short break and regroup.  When something isn’t producing the results desire, simply try a different approach.

Take a new look at what you wish to do and about what changes you can make. Are there new steps to use, or do you need to change the Goal? Go back and re-identify your goals. Make sure that they are in line with your values and move forward. Goal setting with a performance action plan will keep you on track.  Guiding you  to the successful completion of various projects and will help to grow your business.

I welcome your comments and questions, as  your advice is valuable and may help someone else.

 

 

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Nov 20

Blessings! How I Discovered A Powerful Gift

Posted on November 20, 2012 by Paul LeMay

Natures Beauty Is A Blessing

 

It’s interesting how something just hits you out of  nowhere.  How I discovered the decree of blessing came about while sitting in the famous traffic that Panama is known for.  Living in Panama is a blessing in many ways, yet when you are out in the traffic it feels like a curse.

Panamanians are normally friendly people, but put them behind the wheel of a car and it all changes.  Taxis and bus drivers are the worse, they’ll drive the break down lane just to get ahead or, cut you off while you attempt to enter the mall.  The all time worse is passing you when on an off or on ramp.

Lack Of Patience

Normally I am an easy-going person with a fair amount of patience.  However I started to grow frustrated, scolding the bus who forced me out of my lane.  The more that the incidents occurred the more negative my outbursts became.  It got to the point where they would blurt out of my mouth automatically.

Power Of The Spoken Word

I realized that the more I condemned or cursed the taxis, buses and the standstill traffic, they would seem to occur more often.  How easy it became for me to forget the power of my own words.

Blessings

While sitting in traffic one day, my wife let out a big sneeze, automatically I spouted God bless you.  I thought to myself, wow, how many times you hear someone say Bless You, Blessings, or God Bless.  Many times it’s just said  automatically without thought.

Why do we bless someone?  Is it a common courtesy we learned as a child?  It hit me then that Blessings or stating God Bless you, is to declare the GOOD in the situation.  It’s an affirmative decree that God protects you, preventing you from harm or illness.

Blessing a person, an event or situation is invoking an affirmation, a decree for Divine Good to come forward.  To bless is to make it Holy or to make it whole.

If words of condemnation, cursing and criticism attract more of the same unhappy experiences, imagine the results of the spoken blessings.  When you give your blessing to others, you are giving them the gift of divine goodness.  As the good enters their lives, it will enter your’s as well.

Putting It To Work

Now, before going out on the road, offer a blessing for your car and its passengers, bless the road and its traffic.  When a taxi cuts you off, calmly decree a blessing  that he may learn to drive safely.  Surprisingly or not, you will find that everything will flow a bit easier.

Not Just For Traffic

Blessings are a wonderful gift to give to family, friends and even strangers.  At night before I go to sleep I ask that God blesses my wife, family and friends.  That they will have  good health, enjoy prosperity and be at peace with themselves.

The decree of Blessings is a powerful gift, brought to life through the creative power of the spoken word.  A creative force that brings forth divine goodness into your life and the world.

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Jul 29

Welcome To Its A Meaningful Life

Posted on July 29, 2012 by Paul LeMay

It’s a meaningful life covers all topics of Self Growth, Spirituality and Daily Living.  Everything that affects your quality of life.

My life experiences and events led me to living a life of pain, loneliness and depression.  As a result I simply existed day by day with no purpose or meaning.

You would think that after three near death experiences that I would finally get it right.  It’s taken 55 of my 62 year existence just to get on track.

In January of 2009, everything went fast forward.  One day for no clear reason my kidneys began to fail.  An infection set in and I was deteriorating rapidly.  My doctor gave me the news that I was facing death.  After throwing myself a pity party, I realized the results of failing to live life to the fullest.  Thanks to God, he heard my prayers for another chance.  I promised that I would not waste his gift.

As a late learner, I realized how much, I had missed out on because of my-self limiting thoughts and beliefs that held me back.  I often wondered how many people are or were like me.  Missed opportunities, lost love, frustrated by unfulfilled desires, lonely, living in despair.  People giving up,because they don’t know how to turn their life around.

After much consideration and thought, It’s A Meaningful life was born.  Its purpose is to explore the who, what, where, when, why and How of everything that affects your life.  Including but not limited to the following:

1.  Self

2.  Family

3.  Relationships

4.  Work and Career

5.  Health, Wealth and Happiness

6.  Faith, Beliefs and Spirituality

7.  Metaphysical

8.  Retirement and Senior Living

9.  Adventure, Opportunities, Passion, Fun

9.  Giving and Receiving

10.  Emotions, Love, Fear, Hate and Forgiveness

My goal is to explore all topics that will help to increase your self-awareness and understanding.  Giving you the knowledge and abilities to create the meaningful life you deserve to live.

Your Participation

I urge you to leave your comments, to ask questions and to give suggestions.  Your interaction is important.  Your comments, and suggestions just might be what someone needs at that very moment.

Your Story

Better yet, please send me your personal story about where you are now in your life.  Are you struggling, making headway or have you found complete success.  Remember your experiences are a powerful learning tool.  People learn best from the example and experiences of others.  However, whats really important is that you are giving valuable help to others by sharing.

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Again Welcome and thank you for visiting.

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Paul

 

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Jul 29

The Truth About Living In Chronic Pain

Posted on July 29, 2012 by Paul LeMay

The truth about living in chronic pain, is its serious impact on your quality of life.  It threatens you with negative thoughts fueled by powerful mixed emotions.  Remember that your thoughts and emotions, attract like thoughts.  How you feel and think today will affect your experience tomorrow.

Yes, I know, how can you not think about pain when it consumes every aspect of your daily life?  It limits your activities. You can’t do the stuff you use to.  You have to rely on family for help.  Your friends ignore you. Your family doesn’t understand.  Your spouse is frustrated.  People start labeling you as Lazy, A Faker, a hypochondriac, crazy and a host of other not so nice things.  You can’t work. You feel useless, depressed and wonder why me?  What’s my purpose for life now?  I am nothing.

You Are Not Your Illness Or Pain

You remain the same loving person that God created.  Yes, your life is a great deal different and you have many obstacles facing you.  However, in time you can develop a positive mindset to help you cope and work through the various phases.

1.  Initial diagnosis Shock, even if you had the pain for a long time, getting a name like Fibromyalgia, and learning there no cure knocks your socks off.

2.  The Grieving process begins.  You cry, get mad, why me, poor me, a full-blown  pity party complete with regrets.  This is normal, but stop it after a while, or you will only add more misery to your life.

3.  Acceptance– learn to accept that this is part of your life and not your life’s ending.  Develop a positive plan for making adjustments, pace yourself and create balance in your life, medically, emotionally, spiritually, and socially.

Take Control Of Your Life

You and only you are responsible for taking care of yourself.  Some people call it Self Management, while I call it doing what’s best for you?

1.  Talk with your doctor, don’t hold back on how you feel, especially about your pain level, types of pain and how it affects your daily activities.  Your doctor can’t help you if he or she doesn’t have the full picture.  Yes!  It’s OK to change doctors.  If you feel your doctor is unresponsive, doesn’t understand, or you’re simply uncomfortable, then make the change.  Try to find a doctor that specializes in your problem.

2.  Educate yourself about your condition without dwelling on the symptoms.  Don’t go looking for new symptoms, don’t consume all your time with it.  Attempt to keep up as much normal and positive activity as possible.  Remember, like attracts like.

3.  Seek support, via online support groups, counseling if necessary.  Live your life normally do not isolate yourself.  Find new activities if you can’t do your old ones.  Try a hobby, go for a walk, even if it’s just 25 feet into the neighborhood.  When you greet your neighbors don’t talk about your illness or pain.  Look for adjustments or changes you can make to continue as a participant in life.  Don’t become a recluse, despite the fact you may feel lonely at times.

4.  Communicate with your Spouse about how you feel.  It’s difficult for family to understand that your pain can make you more impatient, it can flare up outbursts of anger or anxiety.  The key is to let them know it’s not directed at them personally.

Five Important Reminders

1.  Allow yourself to rest when your pain worsens.  If you have difficulty sleeping, sleep at various times of the day or night.  Sleep is restorative and important for your health.  Meditation and Subliminal CD‘s can help with pain sleep, mind and body healing.

2.  Ignore the opinions of others, they have no idea what you have to go through. 

3.  Do whats best for you, medically, physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

4.  Allow family and friends to help.  You can’t do it all.  Additionally, why deprive others the benefit of giving to you.  It’s a benefit to all involved.

5.  Work towards developing a positive attitude as you then create and bring new and good things into your life.  Life your life to the fullest, as you are meant to live.

 I always welcome your questions or comments.  Your participation is valuable as it contributes to helping others.

See Related Article:   My Affirmation Creed for coping with chronic Pain http://wp.me/p1OZ8H-3Z

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Jul 28

My Story

Posted on July 28, 2012 by Paul LeMay

My story is actually everyone’s story.  The events and experiences are different, yet the results are the same.  Life became frustrating from unfulfilled desires.  Trying to live, act or do as others expect you to.  Living in a way to please others, for their approval, to fit in or just to get along.  Life was one full of worries.  Worrying what others may think, worrying about money, family, work and everything in between.

It seemed that I allowed my dreams and desires to become buried, resulting in anger, frustration and unhappiness.  Frustrated by the feeling of not being in control of my life, only fed my negative mindset.

My life leading up to adulthood, resulted in no sense of self-worth.   I had no self-confidence and lived afraid of anything challenging.  Oddly, I did have a sense that I had something greater within me, despite that I couldn’t define it.

Life Events

Many events and experiences took place in my life, that brought me to depression. My disabilities, from exposure to Agent Orange in Vietnam worsened because of a head on car accident.  My health began to decline, and most physical activities came to an end. I lost interest in life as the chronic pain made me emotionally and physically exhausted.

A major negative event in my life, was that I married and stayed in a relationship that should not have happened.  For whatever reason, I was frozen, afraid to divorce.  One, I had children, two. I was Catholic and taught that divorce is wrong.  My religion bolstered my fear of  Hell and damnation, and my lack of worthiness.  Guilt and fear kept me stagnant, living a life of just existing day by day.

While I was at my wit’s end living with the chronic pain.  My wife at that time, wanted a divorce.  Seeing that I never had the guts to end the marriage, I should have thought this a blessing.  Why it added to my depression, I don’t know?

The Darkness

One day waking to extreme stiffness and pain, I thought why bother living. I felt life had no purpose, no meaning.  What did I have to show for my 54 my years?  Death seemed like a better solution.

Sitting on the edge of the bed, I thought about dying.  As my thoughts roamed to how and when, not only was I despondent, but I was extremely frustrated.  My head spinning, I became angry about why it was this way.  A desire for something better swelled within me.  I broke down sobbing, for what felt like hours, feeling a sense of loss, for a life lived without purpose or meaning.

Self Discovery

I must have fallen asleep.  I dreamt of memories long forgotten, of my youth in Boy Scouts, playing baseball, camping, fishing. Memories of working on a food drive and helping with a teen activity to raise money for St. Jude Hospital.  A flood of experiences that were long forgotten came forth.  I saw and felt scenes of my grandchildren, how they got excited when I visited and the times spent together playing, fishing, picnics and hunting for treasure with my metal detector.

When I awoke, I felt a sense of calmness, a strange peace.  I surprisingly felt, that I was not that bad of a person.  All this led to my going within, taking a hard inventory of myself, comparing how I felt as a child,  to what I felt now.  Most important, I began questioning, Who am I? And what kind of person did I wish to become?  Deciding what I wanted for my life gave me a road map for moving forward.  Tapping into  my power within,  started  a long, slow and difficult process of self-discovery.   The amazing thing was that I even started to like myself.   I was on my way moving forward.

The Ultimate Wake Up Call

In my life, I had three near-death experiences you would think I should have gotten it together by now.  I allowed life to get in the way, and fell back to my limiting negative thoughts.

One Sunday I was in severe abdominal pain and running a high fever.  I have a high pain threshold, but this was like nothing else so I went to the hospital and was admitted.  My kidneys were shutting down and the infection worsened.  After two nights my doctor informed me that the infection was not responding to antibiotics.  My kidneys were deteriorating rapidly and I was facing death.

It was this sense of finality that struck me deeply.  I went through a grieving, pity party of how I wasted my years.  Angry that I had not fulfilled my dreams or desires. That I would never know the love of another and all things we take for granted.

Lying in the darkness, I began thinking of friends and family, With a sense of conviction that surprised me, I stated, No way.   I’m not going to die. I won’t allow it.  I intend to live.   Throughout the night I prayed and spouted affirmations, continuing late into the morning.  I promised God, if I survive that I would not waste his gift of a second chance. I would love and appreciate life as no other person could.  I’m  grateful he heard me.

That afternoon my doctor returned, shaking  his head, he said its short of a miracle, your blood count and kidney functions have improved, lets hope it continues. Smiling I responded, I know it will.

Note:   As a result of that long night in the hospital, I feared I lostthe opportunity of finding a special loving person.   I realized in the past that I was afraid of taking a chance on loving a special person again.  But thanks to God hearing me and granting me a second chance, I followed up with a lovely women, that I was ignoring.  I promised God I would contact her, and the rest would be up to him.  We are now married and have been together for three loving years.

I welcome your comments, and if you have a STORY,  please share it with us.  You may just be the lift that another person needs.  Your Story will be published on a special page.  Please contact me via the About page

Warm Regards

Paul

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Jul 17

In A Rut Lost Interest In Work, Play Or Routine Activities?

Posted on July 17, 2012 by Paul LeMay

 

 

 

Have you ever been in a Rut or lost interest in work,play and your routine activities?  If so, how long did it last?  What snapped you out of it?  I would appreciate your comments , advice and opinions, as they would help me and many others who go through this from time to time.

My Apology

First I apologize for the long lapse of time since I wrote my last blog post.  Like many folks, I’ve hit the deep rut, and lost interest in my favorite activity of writing and reading.  I Just failed to have the energy to even try.  Eventually I went through a period, where I wanted to write and work at my various projects, but just couldn’t focus or sit in the chair long enough.

What Are The Causes?

Depression is often a result that is  brought on by various life events.  Such as loss of employment, retirement, loss of a love one, illness or traumatic injury.  For many you simply don’t care anymore, or lost the passion or desire.

People with long-term illness or who live in chronic pain, can suffer from depression.  But, in my case, and others I’ve spoken with.  It’s not depression all the time.  It’s a constant feeling of being tired, living in a state of chronic exhaustion.  You have the inner desire to take part however, your body just can’t move, or stay comfortable in one position.  So you simply go moment by moment to get yourself through the day.

Diseases such as fibromylagia, lead into chronic fatigue, brain fog, you are weak and aching to the point you can’t focus on a task.  You rest on the sofa, only to become so stiff when you do try to move around.  Then there are issues of neuropathy, lack of sleep which only compounds the situation.

Other issues, such as traumatic injuries, from car accidents and from Military service.

What Can You Do To Help Yourself?

First of all if  you are seriously depressed and have thoughts of hurting yourself, contact your doctor right away.  Do NOT be afraid to make the contact.

1.  Exercise if possible, or at the least, climb out of the basement, and go sit outside.  Take a walk around the block.  Better yet, go out into woods, or visit a lake.  It can help to change your mind-set.  Find a DISTRACTION as it may pull you out of the rut.

2.  Meditation works wonders.  However from my experience, you got to do it, for it to  benefit you.  Normally it helps me, but since this recent Rut I’ve been in, I’ve neglected the practice due to lost of interest.

3.  Listen to music, that’s soothing, even if it lulls you to sleep.  Sound has some amazing healing benefits.

4.  Attempt a new activity, such as a hobby you pursued in the past.  Or something that you desired for a long time and never took action.  Yes I know, how do you attempt something new when you’re in a rut, or lost interest.  All I can say, is sometimes forcing yourself to get up and out, has a positive effect.  I’m no clinical psychologist, or counselor, but I know what has worked for me.

Everyone is different, and what works for one person, doesn’t for the other.  Some of us snap out of it quickly, while for others it takes a long time.  Then there are those folks who struggle constantly just to get through their day.

A Personal Note

Personally, I live in chronic pain from a variety of issues.  Normally I am strong mentally and get through things, but I have battled some slumps in the past.  This  has been one of my longest slumps in a long time.  I’ve had some good days thanks to the new medical protocol I’m on, but the bad days were murder. However, two things helped to pull me out. The first was when out of boredom, while on the internet, I stumbled upon a forum for the hobby of metal detecting.  Metal detecting has in the past been a love of mine.  Well the love got rekindled when I took out my dusty metal metal detectors from the closet.  Despite my physical limitations, I vowed I would go back out and try, even for a short time.  Now, I focus on getting better physically, so I can go out and discover buried treasure in the sandy beaches.  The second thing, was I finally felt good enough to sit at the computer and force myself to write.

Help give this blog post value by posting your experiences, comments and suggestions.  Your advice can have a positive impact on someones  life.

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