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Apr 18

The Value of Praise And Appreciation

Posted on April 18, 2012 by Paul LeMay
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The expressing of praise and appreciation  to others can make a big difference in their life. It can brighten a dark moment, making them feel good about who they are and what they do. We all have a need and a desire to feel appreciated.

It’s easy during the course of your day, or week, to take for granted what people do for you. Most of the time, it’s the little things that you hardly pay attention to, simply because it becomes part of your life’s routine.

A few weeks ago, my wife and I stopped at a fast food restaurant. As, I live in Panama, my spanish is sometimes difficult for the locals to understand. They often say it’s my accent. However, often, the people taking my order are sometimes rude and laugh, making jokes about us Gringos.

The restaurant was busy, but I noticed the girl taking the orders, always had a smile, and she had a way of radiating her good nature. When it came to take my order, her smile remained and so did her good nature. Her patience with me  made my ordeal

As I waited for my food, I watched as she continue to work. Her amiable ways continued. When my food arrived, I said to her in the best spanish possible, you are a very kind, warm friendly person. It shows within your face and I appreciated her patience with me, and I appreciated her warm personality. She looked a bit embarrassed, but her smile and eyes lit up her whole face.  You could tell that it, made her feel good.  For extra measure, I had my wife explain to her in proper spanish.

All this brought me to think about the value of praise. Telling someone they did a great job, or that you appreciate what they did. So often we rush through life, unaware that giving praise to another, can light up their life and  makes a huge difference in a dark moment.  Praise and a simple acknowledgement of a job well done goes a long way in an employer, employee relationship and often results in increased productivity.

There are many people who do little things, mundane things, they work difficult jobs that most people don’t want but, its important to remember that all work and activity matters, and has  purpose and meaning in life.

 Staying focused on your feelings of appreciation for what others do for you, helps to develop your desire for expressing praise and appreciation.  That good old Pat on the back, is a great way of sharing  love for your fellow-man.

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Apr 02

Making Life Fun!

Posted on April 2, 2012 by Paul LeMay

 

Making life fun, is a lost cause for many adults and sadly some teenagers. There is a variety of reasons that you stop doing the fun things you’ve enjoyed at one time.  Perhaps life events have beaten you up with its negativity.  Life events and the obstacles created just make things so tiring, that eat sleep and work are the order of the day.  A hectic work and family life can also dampen any enthusiasm or desire for outside activity. 

Sometimes it doesn’t take much to make us complacent, yet you may stop and wonder why you lost interest in life to begin with.  You may have a spark within, for something outside the humdrum world of eat, sleep and work.  The thought that life was  fun for you at one time may come to mind, and you wish you knew how to make it that way now.

Start Thinking

Do you remember  as a child, how the simple things excited you.  If you find it difficult to remember, just look at your children, grandchildren, or other people’s children.  Observe and take note about what delights them.  Think back to your youth and compare it to these children.  You will smile as pleasant memories return, some of which you may have forgotten about. 

As a child I fondly recall how excited I would get over something as simple as Dad taking us to the Dairy Queen on Fridays when he got paid.  There was no problem with bolting down our supper on those summer nights.

How about the fun times, with summer picnics, going to the beach, fishing with your buddies or playing little league baseball.  Many things we enjoyed with the innocent passion of our youth.

Lost Opportunities For Making Life Fun

In life, its possible to have regrets over lost opportunities.  Failing to take advantage of following your interests or dreams. 

In my youth I loved playing baseball, having played up to the age of 15.  An opportunity to play with a popular town team came about, I was excited as playing with this older group was a long time desire, yet I passed it up to work during the summer. 

Equally I passed up  my opportunity for high school sports because I chose to work after school. 

As you grow older, you look back with regret at the choices you made in your youth.  “Live and Learn” as the saying goes.  Yet later in life you  will have the opportunity for a second chance at things.  You simply need to recognize the chance and choose boldly to take advantage of them.

Second Chance

Okay, so you gave up participating in sports in your youth.  So, what about now?  If you have the physical ability, why not play now as an adult.  Most communities have an Adult Park and Recreation program for both men and women.  Everything for the sports minded, from bowling leagues, slow and fast pitch baseball, basketball, volleyball, and even some form of tag or flag football.

What about using your ability to coach a youth sports team or become an Umpire or Referee, whatever interests you.

Making Life Fun For The Non-Sports Person

Perhaps sports isn’t to your liking, or you desire something in the off-season.  Your local community offers, Adult education classes, offering programs in Wood and Metal working, computer literacy, music, crafts, writing, and much more. 

Take Up A Hobby

You’re probably saying to yourself, what me a hobby?  Haven’t had a hobby since I was in fifth grade with my ant collection, nothing seems to come to mind at my age.

The way around that is to start thinking about what you liked to do as a child.  Or, what about things you wished you did when you were young.  Like that constant desire to learn to play the saxophone.  Or wishing you had the money for a telescope to learn about astronomy. etc, etc.  Open your mind, to a variety of things.  Let the child within you come out and play.

Exciting Activities For The Big Kid In You

Discover and enjoy the excitement of exploring the following.

1.  Learn Metal Detecting, find old coins, jewelry, artifacts and more.  It’s the thrill of anticipating the find.  Great activity for you and your whole family.

2.  Treasure Hunting, learn how to prospect and pan for Gold.  Another activity great for the entire family.  Find Gold once and you got the fever.

3.  Hunting for Indian Artifacts, and for fossils.  Gets you outdoors and great with the family as well.

4.  Bottle Digging and Hunting…another nostagic activity, offering the thrill of the hunt and find. 

5.  As a result of the above, you may develop the hobby of collecting as well.  Yes you can sell your finds, but building a collection makes life fun.

Is Motivation The Problem?

Ahh…you’re thinking well…motivation is my problem, I’m just mentally exhausted and don’t have the energy or ambition .  After putting in a hard day at work, or having a house full of kids just being themselves, simply wipes me out.

Ok, your get up and go as got up and went… yes, it’s easier to plop in the recliner, stick your head in the newspaper, or stare at the television.  To make a positive change you have to prepare to do something different from what you’ve done,  You almost have to force yourself to JUST DO IT. 

To help you along please try this MOTIVATION EXPERIMENT.  Take your kids, or grand kids to the park.  If you don’t have any borrow your neighbors.  However, when you’re there, don’t just sit, stand or watch them play.  Hop on that see-saw with them, let yourself loose on the swings, and climb the monkey bars right along side of the other kids.  Not only will the kids think you’re the greatest, you will surprising find that it’s exhilarating, letting your hair down and just being a KID again by enjoying simple and pure fun. 

The Point To All This

Every day you go through life, working, paying bills, taking care of your family etc.  However, you fail to take care of yourself.  The best way to take care of yourself, is to learn to go out and make life fun. 

It’s not going to happen unless you CHOOSE to make it happen.  Make the choice and make the plan for taking the action necessary to make life fun. 

Live your life, so that when you’re older you’ll have no regrets…Now JUST GO DO something fun.  Remember…..”LAST ONE IN IS A ROTTEN EGG”

 

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Mar 22

Retirement Planning Are You Emotionally Ready?

Posted on March 22, 2012 by Paul LeMay

 

A critical piece of retirement planning is answering the question, Are you emotionally ready?   When planning for retirement much thought is given to the financial part of the plan yet, are you recognizing the emotional aspects and how they will affect you?  Being ready allows you to find and smooth out potential rough spots in advance.  Knowing what lies ahead can make for a more satisfying retirement.

Critical Questions

Take your time and think through them thoroughly.  Answer truthfully, dig deep within yourself and don’t hold back.  Your retirement planning decisions not only affects you, but your spouse as well and will guide you to becoming emotionally ready.

1.  Has your job or career been your entire life?

2.  Does your social life consist only of friends from your work?

3.  Are you passionate about anything outside of work, like a love for Gardening, Fishing, Sports, woodworking and other hobbies or interest?

4.  Do you view retirement as an End or as a new beginning for new opportunities?

5.  Do you and your spouse share many of the same interests?

6.  Have you talked with your spouse, family or close friend about how Retirement makes you feel?

7.  Are you aware of the changes that will occur and how you will respond to them?

8.  Are you capable, or do you have the desire to make changes with pursuing new activities or renewing old interests.

Question Overview

1.  Some people throw themselves into their work or career, they eat sleep and breathe their work.  When not working, they become restless, bored or irritated and most have little interaction with family or non-work activities.

Retirement will be difficult if you can’t separate from your work life.  Develop a plan for becoming emotionally ready for making the transition.  In your plan, decide on how to set up a new routine and to try experimenting with new activities.  Do an inventory of yourself, your likes and dislikes, give thought to what interest you as a youth.

2.  This question relates to number one.  You can as part of the transition, visit your work friends for lunch.  However part of identifying new activities and personal growth is to seek new ways of making friends.

3. Having a hobby or outside passion puts you ahead of the pack.  It gives you something to pursue with your time.  If you don’t have an outside interest, now is the time to experiment with different activities.  Perhaps you can renew an old interest from your past.  Remember focus what excites you.

4.  Change is, whatever you decide.  The choice is yours to make change a frightening experience or an exciting adventure full of new opportunities.  Experiment with new things, slowly, prepare for how you intend on staying active.  Think of it as an opportunity for all things good.

5.  Outside of work many couples don’t share anything together.  Remember you will be together 24 hours.  Prepare and plan for how you will spend your time together.  It doesn’t have consist of everything.  For example, while your wife works on her garden you can do your wood working.  Look for opportunities to share an activity.  Perhaps you can help her move a large plant, be resourceful.  Talk with your spouse about how to share time together.

6.  It’s important to discuss with your spouse how retirement makes you feel.  If your single, share with a friend or family member or all for that matter.  Discuss your concerns and the good stuff as well.  Get their perspective and ask for their help in making the adjustment..

The last two questions are pretty much covered in the above, the key is to attempt to know yourself, becoming aware of specific changes and how you would respond.  Retirement Planning requires that you are emotionally ready.

Wait On Making Big Decisions

During the beginning of transitioning to your new adventure, avoid making rash or big decisions.  Selling your home and moving out-of-state only creates an extra emotional issue.  Adjusting from the loss of your work environment, would be compounded by the loss of familiarity and relationship with your living environment.

Not For Everyone

Entering retirement unprepared emotionally and with basic assumptions can lead to regrets.  Retiring when you’re not ready involves regrets leading to boredom, frustration and depression.

Remember, you don’t have to retire.  Continue working with an open-mind for developing new interest outside of work.  Use the time so that you are emotionally ready for when you retire.

Keep in mind, retirement is not an ending but simply a means to a new beginning.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Mar 19

Sleep Apnea, Signs And Sympthoms, Not For Snorers Only!

Posted on March 19, 2012 by Paul LeMay

 

The signs and symptoms of sleep apnea apply to everyone; children included.  It’s not limited to people who snore, as normally assumed.

What Is Sleep Apnea

Sleep apnea is when your breathing stops or becomes slower while sleeping.  Your interrupted (stopped) breathing can last on average 10 to 25 seconds, somethings even longer.  It can occur over a hundred times per night. 

When it’s allowed to continue you never get a restful nights sleep.  When your breathing stops, you lose valuable oxygen and lack a natural sleep rhythm.

Types Of Sleep Apnea

Obstructive Sleep Apnea the most common, begins with the relaxing of the soft tissue in the back of your throat, resulting in a blocked airway and snoring.

Central Apnea involves the Central Nervous System.  It occurs because the muscles that control your breathing fail to receive the signals from the brain.  People with this type of apnea normally don’t snore.

Complex Apnea is a combined mix of Central and Obstructive apnea

Major Sign And Symptoms

1.  Chronic Loud Snoring

2.  Gasping for air, Choking shortness of breath while sleeping and upon awakening.

3.  Long Intervals, pauses in breathing

Common Signs And Symptoms

1.  Insomnia, or frequent waking during the night

2.  Going to the bathroom often at night

3.  Daytime sleepiness, difficulty staying awake

4.  Dosing off to sleep while watching television or reading a book, especially during daytime.

5.  Restless sleep

6.  Morning headaches

7.  Waking up with a sore throat or dry cotton mouth

8.  Waking up out of breath

9.  Memory issues, forgetfulness and trouble concentrating

10.  irritability, mood swings, or depression

Sleep Apnea Signs And Symptoms In Children

Obstructive sleep apnea is common in children however, it’s often difficult to recognize.  Children with sleep apnea along with snoring acquire unusual sleep positions.  They suffer from excessive perspiration, nightmares and bed wetting.  Children may experience some of the following daytime behavioral changes:

1.  Hyperactivity or inability to pay attention

2.  Developmental issues

3.  Irritability, anger and hostile behavior

4.  Breathing via the mouth rather from the nose

Should  you suspect your child of having sleep apnea, contact your pediatrician.  In children, apnea is usually a result of enlarged tonsils, adenoids, or from allergies.  In most cases, surgery eliminates the apnea for children.

Sleep Apnea Dangerous To Your Health

Sleep apnea is a treatable condition, yet it often goes unnoticed or ignored.  Untreated it can lead to high blood pressure, stroke, heart disease, diabetes, lack of energy and a miserable life. 

If you think you or a loved, one may have sleep apnea, consult your family doctor, or a sleep specialist.  You’ll have at the very least peace of mind, and a more energetic healthy life.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Feb 04

Giving The Gift Of Love

Posted on February 4, 2012 by Paul LeMay

 

 

Giving The Gift Of Love

 So often it’s easy to take your feelings for granted concerning the people that are important in your life.  It’s simply assumed that the people you care about know how you feel about them.  In most cases those you love are often aware of how you feel about them.  Yet, it’s easy to become negligent in letting them know you love them. 

Letting others know you love them is critical to nuturing the growth of a loving relationship.  Saying “I LOVE YOU” is a priceless gift that you should never hesitate to give to those you love.  I don’t know of anyone who tires of being told they are loved.

The Gift Of Love Has A Profound Impact

Saying I love you has a profound impact on someone’s life.  It can make a big difference in their life, especially if they are at a low point.  Sharing the gift of love benefits the giver as well as the receiver, ”what you give…you receive.  When you generously give of your love, a spoken word, a touch, a hug or kiss, you’re taking your relationships to a higher level adding strength and depth, cementing a solid bond.

We all need to hear the words “I Love You”…its a four letter word that you don’t mind having thrown at you.  Adding the L word to your vocabulary and three simple words “I Love You” makes a significant statement.  It’s and Affirmation, a Declaration of your love to those in your life.  It’s a gift of love that sends a strong message that you genuinely care.

The L Word As Tabu

For many, the L word is very much tabu.  Its a word that’s avoided like the plague.  You may avoid it because you grew up in an environment where affection was rarely expressed.  Or, you’re afraid to say I love you because you believe it makes you vulnerable.  Many men believe it’s a sign of weakness, real men don’t get touchy feelly, with mushy sentimental acts.  However, it’s important to learn to share your feelings, accepting them as part of who you are and to learn to give them freely to those important to you.  The overwhelming satisfaction that comes from being in love, is telling that special person you love them.  Love is the foundation of life, it exists for sharing and expressing and should never be withheld. 

The Gift Of Love Has No Expectations

When you love someone, always let them know.  Don’t worry about them not feeling the same and don’t be afraid of the strength of your emotions.  When you express love to another it do so without expectations of receiving anything in return.  You shouldn’t worry if I love you is not said back to you.  We are all filled with love, it’s an unlimited supply, you will never run out of it.  Saying “I Love You” a touch, a hug or a kiss is the giving of a gift from your heart to the hearts of those intended.  It may seem at times that love from the heart is an offering that’s unconditional and given freely.  However, honesty and purity is the very essence of the Gift I LOVE YOU.

 

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Jan 20

January Is A Time For Reflection And Change

Posted on January 20, 2012 by Paul LeMay

 

January is a time for reflection and change.  It’s the start of a New year which serves as a reminder that you desire change in your life.  The approaching of January automatically places you in the mind-set for reflection and change about your past and future.  Since ancient times, man has used the start of a New Year as an opportunity for renewal. 

Three Emotional States Are Created

When December comes to an end, you’re  subconsciously  pre-conditioned that the start of a New Year is the time for change.  It automatically generates a specific emotional tone

1.  You are  unhappy with the past year of turmoil and difficulties. You dread the New Year believing that life will only be more of the same.  This is a self-limiting belief that holds you back.

2.  You are unhappy about you past year yet you are optimistic about the New Year. You believe that it will be a year of positive change because that’s what you want.  This is positive because you have a strong intention for creating change.

3.  You’re content with the past year or simply accept it for what it was. Your thoughts are on the change that’s necessary for obtaining what you desire.  You maintain an overall positive attitude.

New Year Resolutions

Year after year you made resolutions about what changes you wanted.  You resolved to lose weight, to pay off debt, or to get a better job,  yet you find that little has changed and you scratch you head wondering why.

A 2007 University of Bristol study, shows 88 percent of those who make a New Year resolution fail despite the fact that 52 percent were confident of success from the beginning.

Whats The Problem?

The problem is two-fold.  First your emotional state or mind-set forms the basis of success and failure.  It’s either positive or negative and depending on your emotional state your thoughts and actions will be equal.  Secondly you may be limiting yourself through  fear or doubt.  Fear generates a belief system that is self limiting.  Your fear holds you back preventing  good things from happening.  What you fear you attract. 

Remember, what you feel determines your emotional state and related thoughts.  Thoughts are things and you create your experience by what you think fueled by your emotions. 

Reflection And Change Turning The Tide

Set aside some quiet time for reflection on how you can make the positive change thats needed.  Determine what specific changes you want to appear in your life.  On paper write each one out begining your sentence with the words I AM as follows:

1.  I am at peace with who I am.

2.  I am whole, perfect, strong, and loving.

3.  I am losing 2 pounds per week

4.  I am paying off all my debts.

Actually you are not making a resolution but an Affirmation of faith.  Using the powerful words I AM, creates the thought that you have already achieved your intended desire.   You have already declared with  faith that as you write and read you have already received.  I AM makes it happen, words like I WILL, or I Can are not definite, they only tell you mind that its possible, I AM is positive, specific and creative.

Write And Read

Writing expands your thoughts as you write you are either saying the words out loud or to yourself.  This reinforces the planting of the seed within your subconscious mind.  It adds power to your WORD.  Your word is creative.

Set Specific Times For Reflection And Change

Keep your written list by your bedside.  Immediately after awakening, yes the coffee can wait, read your affirmations for change.  Visualize a picture in your mind associated with each item you wrote.  Reflect on each one for a minute or two, see yourself thinner, feel the joy of your success.  See yourself calm, loving and content.  Think about how that makes you feel.  Visualize that new job, your boss shaking your hand of acceptance, or you sitting in your brand new office. 

Mid-Day Review

Find a time during the day, to re-read your affirmations, or to re-write them for  reinforcement.  Perhaps at lunch or when you’re on a break, what ever works best for you.  Don’t forget to-day dream, visualize yourself as mentioned above.  Reflection throughout the day, daydreaming, thinking about your desires keeps your subconscious mind focused on what you want.  Change will come faster the more you think about your desires or affirmations.

Before Going To Sleep

As you are resting in bed, read your list, visualize it, as you get sleepy, your subconscious will work on bringing it to you.  Early in the morning and right before sleep your brain is in Alpha State which is receptive to your thoughts and emotions.

Important Things To Remember

1.  You  should have a strong and sincere desire for change in your life.

2.  You must approach change by reflection, thinking and visualizing what you desire.

3.  You must have faith that what you desire is coming to you.  Better to develop a faith that you have already received. 

4.  Be consistent, dedicate yourself to this plan, do it every day.  If you miss your mid day review, don’t worry about it, morning and evening are the biggies.

Critically Important

As positive changes gradually appear in your life, DON’T chalk it up as coincidence as there are no coincidences in life.  Don’t start doubting that it’s working…you must continue to have faith that what is taking place is REAL.   Doubting will only STOP the flow.  You must have the faith to accept the good that is coming to you.

Giving Thanks And Gratitude

Be grateful to God for the Gifts you are receiving.  Give thanks in advance as if your request has already been received.

I welcome your thoughts and opinions, please comment as your response is important to everyone.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Dec 18

Gratefulness, Gratitude And Appreciation Adds Happiness To Life

Posted on December 18, 2011 by Paul LeMay

 

Gratefulness that feeling of gratitude and appreciation  adds happiness and fulfillment to your life.  Our search for fulfillment usually happens by trial and error and  in many cases you stumble upon it accidentally.

A few years ago my disabilities of fibromyalgia, diabetes and neuropathy brought me to a dark and depressing point in my life.  Depression and exhaustion from living in chronic pain resulted in my questioning the value of living.  Most activities came to a sudden stop.  My reduced physical abilities coupled with many limitations caused my mind to flood with negative thoughts about my future.  What Good am I now? 

Perhaps you have been in a similar place, questioning your value and your future purpose.  When you ask, What makes my life worth Living?  It forces you to take a hard look.  You search deep within, desperately wanting answers.    Thoughts of my grandchildren came to me.  How excited they would get when I visited and their pure unconditional love for me.  I realized how I was Grateful for them in my life. 

Whats Important In Life     

As my mind became flooded with the precious memories of time spent with my grandchildren. I realized that my gratitude and appreciation for them lightened my feelings of depression.  Following these were thoughts of simple things you enjoy in life that normally are taken for granted.   Gratefully, I thanked God for the memories.  As, they result in you realizing what’s really important in your life.

What Gratefulness Does For You

Gratefulness, gratitude and appreciation reminds you of the positive things in your life.  It turns your life’s challenges into good feelings giving you strength and the ability to endure.

When you live your life from a state of gratitude, giving thanks daily,  it brings God’s presence into your life.  You begin to feel happier, positive and more loving. 

Feeling gratitude and appreciation makes you feel happier, content, less stressed and depressed.  It brings to you a greater sense of satisfaction with life and your relationships.  You benefit from feeling and receiving more love, kindness and compassion. 

When you give thanks and show appreciation to others, via a card, letter, words, a warm hug or kiss, you a giving a warm loving gift that makes others grateful for receiving.  The happiness and love spread out from you.  As a result you reap blessings in return.  ”As you do unto others, it is done unto you”

Living A Life Of Gratitude And Appreciation

Make giving thanks a part of your daily routine, either in the morning when you first get up or at night before going to sleep.  Give thanks for what you have received.  Another tip is to combine your gratefulness and appreciation with an affirmation using the powerful words, of “I AM”  Some examples are:

1.  I am grateful for having good health

2.  I am grateful for having a loving family

3.  I am thankful that everyone and everything prosper me now.

When expressing your statement of gratitude and appreciation, give thanks not only for what you have received, but for what you intend  to experience in your life.  Giving thanks to God in advance is an affirmation acknowledging that “He God”…..has answered.

Please share your comments and questions, your participation is of value to everyone.

 

 

 

 

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Dec 15

Giving And Receiving Adds Blessings To Your Life

Posted on December 15, 2011 by Paul LeMay

 

Giving and receiving adds blessings to your life.  It’s part of the cycle, the flow of life itself.   If you have nothing to give, then you have nothing to receive.  The act of giving and receiving is part of the universal law of love.  When you give from your heart, from the basis of love, you are in harmony with the Law of Love.  You are in harmony with your Creator.

Why Do People Give?

Why bother with giving or making gifts to give to family, friends and acquaintances.  Why go through the time, effort and cost of giving to others.

The answer depends on your intention.  Do you give simply  to receive, expecting a gift  in return, or is it because you feel an obligation?  Well, Aunt Sue, remembers me so now I have to buy for her as well.  Could it be that you feel pressured because you believe giving is expected by others, so you give to gain their approval?  Are you one who gives generously, for named recognition like a plaque on a hospital wall or acknowledgement in a news article?  Do you give because you love to as it gives you pleasure to help or bring joy to another, expecting nothing in return?

Giving Is Love That Blesses And Multiplies

When your intention for giving comes from love with no expectations except to help others, you are giving a gift that is true and pure.  This act of giving blossoms into a blessing for the giver as well as the receiver. 

“Give and it is given to you.  For the measure you give is the measure you get back.” Luke 6.38  ( “Who is honored honors mankind” Judaism ) ( “He who acts kindly in this world will have kindness” ) Islam, Qur’an 39.10

The importance placed on giving and receiving is universal throughout all world religions.  The practice expands love unifying  humanity.

What Do I Have To Give?

Are you thinking I have nothing to give? Do  you feel you need to wait until you have more money before you can give?  You’re limiting your thoughts, which  increases your state of living in lack.  We all have something to give.  There are many opportunities to give and spread love and compassion to others.  Here are a few examples:

1.  Give a smile and pleasant greeting when you meet others.  It gives to others a sense of your caring and warmth.

2.  Something simple as holding a door open for someone, can add a warm spark to another.

3.  Give of  your time, visit the elderly or shut ins, they are lonely and something as simple as having someone to talk to, adds light to their life.

4.  Give of your skill.  Coach a youth sport such as baseball, or supervise activity at a  youth center.  Whatever fits your skills.

5.  A flower from your garden to a neighbor or write and leave a loving note in your childs or spouse lunch bag. 

Use your imagination, something simple and basic blesses us all.

The Blessing of Receiving

The act of receiving a gift is in itself a form of giving.  Like the act of giving, it’s truth and purity depends on the intention of the receiver.  However, many people have problems allowing someone to give them a gift, as well as the inability to accept it.  For example, you are ill and can’t do your housework, so your sister offers out of love to clean your house for you.  You are proud and fear you will appear helpless. So, you put up a fight refusing her help.  Your sisters help, is her offering a gift of love to  you.  Your refusal is denying her the blessings and joy of giving. 

Receiving requires some adjustment in perception.  Learn to trust that the gift is an offering of love, its part of life’s flow.  What you give you receive and when you receive you are also giving back.  Your loving and gracious allowing to accept the gift, gives joy and satisfaction to the giver.  That is your gift in return to them, it is out of love and gratitude free of all expectations.  Your receiving completes the cycle of giving adding its blessings, which grow and expand your life.

Giving And Receiving Everyday Blessings

The act of Giving and Receiving aren’t limited to holidays or special occasions.    When you decide to make this a habit of your everyday life, you will gradually see the positive changes in your life.  Your life experiences will be full of blessings that not only expand your life, but touches humanity with love, and harmony.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Dec 07

Is True Love and Unconditonal love Humanly Possible?

Posted on December 7, 2011 by Paul LeMay

 

 

Unconditional love defined as true love, is absolute and freely given to everyone despite their behavior. It doesn’t matter if they’re a murderer, alcoholic, drug dealer, or if they’re Gay, Christian, Muslim, Jewish or an Atheist. However, is it actually possible for a human to love someone unconditionally? Perhaps unconditional love is merely a myth, or simply a false illusion resulting from an unfulfilled desire to experience true love.

It’s within your nature to want to give and receive love, because you come from God, who is pure unconditional love. His love lives within you and despite your divine connection, you’re feeling frustrated from the unfulfilled fleeting episodes of love within your life. You have a chronic longing to experience a love that is genuine and long-lasting. What is known as True Love?

The Human Love Experience

The meaning of unconditional love may seem to confuse to you.  There are many theories and debates about its true meaning and implications within life. It’s a grand ideal to seek because you want nothing more than to experience love unconditionally. However, for most of humanity, the desire for unconditional love is simply that, a desire, a state of wanting.

What you call love is not the love that you want. In practice, it’s love that’s conditional. You have your conditions that you want met before you open and give love to another. These conditions vary from person to person. Perhaps you choose to love people because their personality is compatible with yours, or they have the same political views, belong to your religion, or share your nationality. Maybe you love them because they say and do things that you want them to. Whatever conditions or limitations you use, you wind up  giving your love to those who meet your expectations and withhold it from those who don’t. The kicker is that once someone fails to live up to your conditions, or you change them and they are not met, unhappiness sets in. As a result what you thought was love, exists no more.

True Love

Love with conditions is not really love. Unconditional Love is the only true love. It’s very nature comes from God. It’s not limited to certain people, or by the conditions established. It’s an unlimited love that’s constant and never changes. You don’t have to earn it or meet specific conditions. True love comes from our Creator and flows to and through all of creation. All of you have been given his true love, a universal unconditional gift given freely to everyone.

Remember you are eternally worthy of his true love because God created his children as loving and lovable beings. True love is the nature of God and you are a part of God’s nature.

Obtaining True Love

Simply because we have experienced love with conditions, doesn’t mean Unconditional love is not humanly possible. First you must free yourself of fear and its limitations beginning with the following:

1. Forgiveness, which is the highest form of love. First, you must learn to forgive yourself for the limits and conditions you have placed on you. Then you must forgive others, for not meeting the conditions you set for them. Let it all go, not because you condone what others have done, but, simply because you don’t need it in your life anymore.

2. Learn to Like yourself, work your way to Loving yourself. Self acceptance for who and what you are, regardless of what your ego tells you or what other people think. You don’t need to live your life through the eyes of others. Listen to what feels right deep within you.

You can’t really love someone until you learn to love yourself. You can only give to others what is within you. Fill yourself with love, and that’s what you’ll give. The more love you give, the more you’ll receive.

Jesus commanded that “love, thy neighbor as you would love thyself” he’s telling you the way to love another is to love yourself. It all begins within you.

Behavior Versus Conditions

Unconditional love is giving love freely despite a person’s behavior. However, it doesn’t mean that you must stay living with an abusive spouse. Nor does it mean you must let your children do whatever they please or to allow people to take advantage of you.

Unconditional love is a state of being, and you can tap into  your divine connection from within.  The Holy Spirit will guide you in your expression of unconditional love, in a way that benefits all involved. He will guide you in setting limits that are reasonable for your children and your practical daily life.  You can set limits on what is acceptable behavior without limiting your LOVE. The fullness of your being can exist in complete unconditional love, even when your love requires setting limits on behavior. What’s most important to remember is that whatever you do, do it from a place of love.

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Nov 26

Add Meaning To Your Life By Starting A Home Business

Posted on November 26, 2011 by Paul LeMay

 

Starting a Home Business can add meaning to your life.  It adds an element of fun, is challenging and satisfies your need for creativity.  Running a home business gives you a sense of purpose for being productive.  Like an artist or craftsman, you get to build, to create your home business to become whatever you want.  The best part is when you make your first profit.  It’s a nice feeling of accomplishment.

What Business Is Right For You

Finding a business that’s right for you depends on how you answer the following questions.  Get a pad or piece of paper to write and answer the questions below:

1.  What are my special interests or hobbies?

2.  What am I passionate about?

3.  What skills do I have?

4.  Whats  my work experience?

5.  What am I good at?

Write everything that comes to mind, don’t leave anything out.  Jot down anything even if you think it’s of little value.  You can cross things out later after you review and think them over. 

Look over your answers and let them sink into your mind.  Your goal is to find something that you like, or best yet love and then match it to a target group or market.  Meaning is there a need or demand for your product or service? 

Take some of your favorite choices, search them on the internet, see what people are selling or buying.  Take a walk through your yellow page phone directory.  Check to see what people are offering that’s in or close to your choice, so you can develop a feel for the market.   If you go to www.adwordsgoogle.com/select/keyword-toolexternal you can see how many people ae looking for specific Keywords.  These are the words that people input for searching.  This gives you the results for supply and demand.  Supply meaning whats offered on the internet, and demand being the amount of searches.

 Chances are one or two of your choices will be something that people will be willing to pay, either for information about, or for your product and services.

Other Things To Consider

When planning on Starting a Home Business decide on the amount of time you have available to give to the business.  If your employed, can you do this and keep up your full-time employment without interference?

Never conduct your personal business on company work time.  It will come back at you when you least expect it.  Most important, don’t let your employer know that you have a part-time business.  They immediately will think the worse, meaning that you’re not giving your full attention to your work, or you’re doing personal business on their time.

Some Business Ideas

Start A Flea Market Vending Business

Grow and Sell Plants and Flowers

Offer Secretarial or Administrative Services to business owners

Start a Bookkeeping service,

Tax Service

Turn your hobby into a business, such as Arts and Crafts, Wood working, quilting, candle making, soap making and much more.

Whether you’re a Senior, Retiree, or Stay at Home Mom, add meaning to your life by starting a home business.  It adds freedom, variety, creativity, challenge, and an extended purpose to your life.  It gives you the opportunity for making some cash and having a little fun.

 

 

 

 

 

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